November 7, 2006

Our Sexy Baby

On November 29th my husband will find out if we are expecting a boy or girl. I'll find out next April.

Is this a totally ridiculous plan? Since my ultrasound was scheduled so late (almost 6 months into my pregnancy) I've decided just to stick it out for the last trimester and find out what brand of sexy our baby is when I deliver. Spike, however, needs something to keep him jazzed about this baby through my pregnancy as I get fatter and fatter so he wants to find out now.

I have a couple of options here. My HMO doesn't allow Spike in the examination room while the tech does the ultrasound. I could have the tech lie to Spike and tell him that the sex was impossible to determine so there's no chance of Spike blowing the secret between November and April. Or I could have the tech pick a sex randomly so Spike thinks he knows and is happy but really is in the dark like me. Or I guess I could just trust the big guy not to ruin the surprise for me. But this last option seems the most ridiculous.

Knowing the sex now wouldn't be the end of the world, but with all the agony of delivering a baby, it would sure be nice to have something in the 'pros of childbirth' column besides 'getting the darn thing OUT!' And I don't want a baby shower for baby #2 so the whole "pink or blue" question shouldn't matter. Plus, I just don't have room for more stuff in my house and heaven forbid it's a boy and I need to go shopping again. Shopping for baby boys is depressing. Blue dogs. Blue dogs with bones. Blue dogs on fire engines. Blue fire engines. Shoot me now.

I was talking to my good old hippie mother today and she threw in a nice granola line to validate my decision, "well Hollywood, it is natural not to know." Yeah - and it's natural for gerbils to eat their entire first litter alive. This may be a stupid decision on my part but I've made up my mind and so there's no going back. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that our plan works. Spike has promised that he won't tell a soul what the sex is so don't any of you go bugging him about it. You'll find out when I find out. Viva "it" baby!

16 comments:

Anonymous said...

i found out with holly and marc didnt. and i didnt tell. and, just so you can factor it in to your equation, i am going to ask him--sorry i'm just so interested. so prep him for it or whatever.

compulsive writer said...

I'm with you, I like to be surprised.

My BIL and SIL had such a predicament with over their first grandchild. (Yes, I am old.) What? It didn't hit him over the head when he went across the street to his mom's house and kept seeing pink quilts on the quilt frames?

Good luck with your plan. Although I thought the idea of having the ultrasound tech just randomly tell your husband one or the other would've been hysterical!

c jane said...

I am utterly austounded that you can't have your husband at the ultrasound. What is up with that?

I love that you are waiting! It's so old fashioned, while at the same time, awesome.

amanda said...

I say that you sit down and make some ground rules if Adam is going to find out. No teasing you or torturing you going back and forth. No telling ANYONE. my friends did this and she was only going to tell her mom. The mother-in-law came to visit a few days before the delivery--after the secret had been kept that long--and let it 'slip'! not a good scenario. and of course you could throw in a few other things like if you let him find out he has to rub your back every night.

adrienne said...

Be sure you prep the tech well, though. I have a friend who went in for an ultrasound (her hubby was allowed in in this case) and they were both ADAMANT about not knowing the sex of the baby. However, the brilliant techs kept referring to the kid as "XX."

"XX... wait, you mean it's a girl?"
"Uhmmm..."
"GAH! I KILL YOU!"

Sad thing is, the techs seemed genuinely shocked since nobody else had ever figured it out.

doug said...

Your cousin Greg (my brother) and wife Kelley did the same thing: he knew the sex and she did not. Surprisingly, even being a Son of Keith, he was able to keep the secret.

HMO doesn't allow your husband in the room while the ultrasound is performed? Wow. What else does this plan offer? "Sorry honey, can't give you a back-rub: HMO. I'll just have to get some sleep."

Adam said...

sarah, i am not sure if that is true about me not being there. last time, they kept me out until after they told you, but i did get to see part of the ultrasound. we can just wait until they let me in and then ask them. together. like a family. you know, a family? we do things. together.

Sarah said...

if by "like a family" you mean we both sit and wait like good little boys and girls until delivery day to find out, I'm totally on board.

Anonymous said...

I think the anticipation would kill me; I'd have to know. Even though we found out with Katie I still agonized over whether or not she was really a she until she was born. I'm excited you guys (okay, Sarah at least) will do it the surprise way. Gerbils eat their babies...love that bit.

Mary A. said...

Cute sonogram story: Emma was the only one I knew about in advance. James was 4 at the time. I said something like - "The doctor took a picture of the baby today and said it looks like a girl!" James thought about that for a moment and said, "Because she has pony tails?"

XX from Team C said...

you don't want a baby shower? i was looking forward to hanging sea creatures all over my ceiling. :)

A Payne said...

You're HMO is whack! In a bad way.

Suzie Petunia said...

What a dilemna for you both! So many options. But be kind to your husband. I think it would kill me if my husband knew and I didn't!

We TRIED not to find out with the last baby, but he had a condition (dialated kidneys) in utero that is more common in boys - his older brother had it too - and so we could only assume it was a boy. If a girl has the same condition in utero the medical people freak out. No one was freaking out, so we were 99.9% sure we were having a boy without anyone telling us directly! Kind of a bummer.

After that incident I couldn't WAIT to find out this time around! Her normal kidneys gave her away.

Lady Steed said...

We didn't find out with Big O. Most people thought I was crazy to not find out the sex, but I thought it was quite exciting. How many true surprises are left in life?

It's also kind of fun to have other people guess based on how you are carrying and such. I think some of my friends even made some sort of game out of it.....oh wait, that was Theric's aunt. It was a game we played at the baby shower. Everyone had to guess the sex and weight of the baby. I think the husband of a cousin won.

Anyway, be ready with two names and look forward to the surprise.

Dad said...

I don't think it is a good idea to keep any of us in the dark - so here goes...

Sarah, YOU ARE HAVING ANOTHER GIRL!!

Love Dad

bethany said...

bless you dad for sharing with us all. sarah, i just cant bare not knowing the sex!!!! just tell your doctor to tell ME!