Eliot Spitzer's Wife
This is Spike.
Why, oh why, did Eliot Spitzer's wife stand up there on the stand with him when he admitted to the world that he is an adulterer and a john?
I think the fact that he brought her up there to be humiliated with him shows what a selfish dog he is.
What do you think? What would you have done?
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Personally I know of two couples who went through this and actual came out the other end better off and stronger than one would presume. Not saying it was easy, but madness turned to reality and the repentance began. In both of these cases it was more emotional than recreational "indiscretions" - maybe that was the difference? Interestingly enough though, both those cases got a divorce and THEN remarried when all was figured out.
One last thing. If nothing else good has come from the Governor's bad choices, at least it got you to write something and move those eels a tad down the page! THANKS SPIKE!
Kati
Also, what would the press have made of it if his wife wasn't there? Much, I'm sure, as I've already read a lot about how Michelle Obama leaves the stage when her husband speaks, breaking the mold of dutiful adoring background wife.
At least there was no child present. When the guy from NJ resigned, his wife stood there holding their infant. Blech.
How embarrassing for her!
Dana McGreevy stood next to her NJ Governor husband when he confessed that he had a gay lover. She has since moved on and wrote a book about it.
Also, I don't think this case is one that 'the wife is the last to know', really, as much as he is in the limelight, I'm sure she was tipped off years ago. And she stayed........
M.E.Lib,& Susan, I tend to agree with you. No one could have drug me up there unless I felt *I* needed to be there somehow.
Heather, yup. AND do we notice that within each speech are "subtle" biblical phrases? "I need to atone for this." or "Where much was given, much was expected". Gag. Ya, when you plop down 1K an hour you *do* expect something! I want to barf.
Moddy, when I read your comment I visualized her being very stealth in her actions, so much so that when she made her move he bent down in pain and banged his head on the podium. Kind of a two for one sale.
certainly there are exceptions to everything....
Poor wifey. I wouldn't have done it, I would have been at my moms house instead.
But when I was talking to my husband about this, he wondered if maybe she's standing by him because she knew about the whole thing all along. Maybe this wasn't a surprise to her. I haven't followed the story enough to know if they've already said if she knew about it or not.
Even so - this just makes me sick. Not for him, not for her, but for their little girls who have to hear about, and read about what their daddy - who they probably looked up to - was doing.
He's a jerk. She's choosing to stand by him. She did know stuff was going on. What her intentions are? Who knows. But to suggest that she is just a poor victim with no say in the matter is so backwards.
Perhaps the money and power are important enough to her that it's worth it for her to stick it out. I'm not saying that's right or wrong. Anyone faced with the position of having to raise kids on their own without the benefits she's had of being married to a man with money and power would probably think twice about up and leaving him.
Personally, I'd take a different road. But that's just me. And my choice.
His wife was beautiful, fit, amazing figure, sweet, educated, and even he admits -"perfect", his explanation was "pure ego, it was available and it was because I was a (his profession title). I could suddenly have whatever I wanted. So I did." It didn't matter that he had the perfect wife, his ego took over and he destroyed their marriage.
Sometimes, it doesn't take two to tango. Sometimes it only take one.
I am sorry but even if your spouse is absolutely horrid, a person over the age of 8 has will and choice. If it was that bad, divorce is always an option.
Jerk!
I am that woman. My husband had an affair. I stayed by him. Granted, he wasn't the governer, but I sat by him at church, lost friends that couldn't understand why I would do that, etc, etc. We are young (both barely 30). Don't for a second think that I didn't think it through long and hard (just as ES's wife is, I think). I took it minute by minute. It has been just a year and I still am.
I caution ALL of you that say "I would never do that". I said the same thing, and you know what? When it is YOUR husband, YOUR family and YOUR children, you tend to think it through a little bit differently. I didn't do what I thought I would. Not because I am weak, or following a script or anything else besides I was thoughtful, prayerful and was (and am still) just trying my best to do the best thing for my family. I have suprsied myself. I have not reacted at all in the way I thought I would. Maybe because it isn't so black and white as it seems to the rest of you.
Don't flame me...but since I seem to be the ONLY person who has commented so far that has been in his wife's postion, know that there is knowlege behind this comment. I barely even REMEMBER the first months.
Perla, I appreciate your words b/c you are right. You DON"T KNOW what you would do. You are just trying to keep breathing. Trust me.
ALso, can I point out that just because one person does awful things, it isn't the sum total of what/who they are? He is still her hsuband, they still built a life together. Doing something UNBELIEVEABLY bad and awful does'nt make you an awful person. That is what I learned. There is still a sense of what they are. Maybe I am not expressing myself well, but I just wanted to remind us all that we are all more than our sins.
ALso, I was less interested in what he DID, as in what he choose to do in the future. Yes, my husband and ES are screwed up. Can they change? That remains to be seen.... SO far, we are doing great. I might even say, better than ever because we have stripped away the lies and are finally living a truthful life. We are both very educated. We are both RM's. We go to church every week. Some of you know us. It happens to all kinds of people. That is why Satan keeps using morality as a temptation. It works. I am not saying that anyone should do what we did, I am just saying that sometimes it is ok to stand by your husband and you don't deserve to be called weak or manipulated or any of the other things that she (and I) have been called. There are only TWO people that can make that call.
I wish I didn't recognize the look in her eyes. It still hurts to see it.
My husband cracks me up.
Anyway, I read that before Spitzer resigned, SHE was the one who was pushing him to try to stay in office and save face. Maybe standing next to him was her way of saying to the public that if SHE could forgive him maybe THEY could too. But, yah, that didn't happen.
LisaC
As for Eliot's wife, she was damned because she did and would have been damned if she didn't. Maybe she was politically motivated, or had a prenup that stated that she 'had to stand by her man' or she doesn't get any of what's left of the marraige.
I always tell my husband that if he's gonna cheat, own up to it, and leave me all your stuff when my foot hits your ass before the door of the Greyhound shuts behind it!
Personally, I blame Bill and Hill for setting the precedent in the first place.
Bet y'all would feel differently if your daughter was hooker #9 or Monica L. Would you stand by your man at that point?
I feel her pain but I also see her as an opportunist.
Some women today appear to want social status in society even if it means breaking legal norms. The Governor committed an illegal act, and embarrassed his office and his family. Despite all of this his wife wanted him to continue to be the Governor and her husband. What does this tell??? Her entire marriage appears to be lie. Following the reports in the media he was involved in having sex with prostitutes thoughtout the marriage. Now why would she still want to be with him??
I feel her pain but I also see her as an opportunist.
Some women today appear to want social status in society even if it means breaking legal norms. The Governor committed an illegal act, and embarrassed his office and his family. Despite all of this his wife wanted him to continue to be the Governor and her husband. What does this tell??? Her entire marriage appears to be lie. Following the reports in the media he was involved in having sex with prostitutes thought out the marriage. Now why would she still want to be with him??